Bullying
Are you having problems with bullying? There are many ways to prevent those problems.
One thing I know is that bullying is like a triangle because you need three things
- A bully
- Bystanders (usually the bully’s friends)
- Victim
If the victim tries to leave the triangle the bully will most likely continue to pick on him. I find the most effective way to solve the problem is to take out the bystanders. The reason is if there is nobody for the bully to “entertain” the bully will most likely stop.
A bystander can stop the problem without losing any of his friends. All he would have to do is explain to the bully that -it is not cool to tease other people and get fun out of it we could have more fun playing ball or something… That’s all it takes, now the triangle is broken.
However, if the bystanders do not step up there are still other ways to stop the problem. One way is to talk to the bully confidently and make him realize what he is doing. The victim can explain how the bully is getting pleasure from his pain.
Other ways are to make some friends and stick around them. A bully is less likely to bother a whole group of people then just one person.
In most cases bullies can pick out victims. They have there head tilted downward there hand are together. The victim is crouched over and usually looks away from other people.
If the victim has a confident stance (chin up, looking around, hands at your side and walking normally) that could help him avoid getting teased.
A way to stop the bullying when a victim is being bullied is to use humor or better yet change the subject. The reason is if the victim can distract the bully maybe he will not be thinking about bullying. Another way is to annoy the bully until he realizes he is not hurting any feelings, the way to do this is to repeat stop or go away until the bully gets tired.
Now that I have told you ways to get rid of the victim and the bystanders, there is one more point of the triangle… the bully. Taking out the bully is usually not the most hopeful idea. But sometimes the bully may get tired of annoying one person for a long time. What I mean is if the victim ignores the bully it will probably pass.
I hope I have offered some useful advice, and I hope that you will use my tips when you, or a friend, needs help. Thank-you.
